I had a meeting yesterday and it got me thinking, follow this up with a comment on Twitter about my bio and I started to wonder how we form first impressions. I know when meeting face to face that it happens in a split second, 1/20th of a second i think, that may be wrong. But those first impressions are so rarely correct, when you look at someone you barely see a fraction of who they are yet we believe we somehow know them off the back of that.
There are so many blogs and posts that discuss making a good impression, but what does that mean? Be yourself? Don’t be yourself (someone will always be offended or dislike you but is that a good reason to not be yourself?), be someone poster? Smarter? More organised or more fashionable? It’s a hard one, I think you do have to play it by ear, and I also believe that there are times when showing all of yourself (figuratively, filthy minded people 😉) just isn’t the right thing to do.
I had a plan for a lengthy post on how to not judge people on first impressions alone but actually it doesn’t require a whole post it’s really easy. When you find you’re judging someone, stop and think about it. Is this a generalisation? Are you making assumptions based on their appearance or maybe their driving? Right? Got it? Now stop it. Tell that person in the back of your head to withhold judgement for just a bit longer. That’s it, whatever assumptions you’ve made, remind yourself that you have no basis for this, you’re just guessing and that’s not fair, the other person hasn’t had time to even speak and you’ve decided you don’t like them. Not cool. So save those first impressions, and go watch a fun Vampire short story, he doesn’t like people making judgements on appearance either 😉 (requires a UK Amazon Prime subscription – sorry).