7 Ways to be a better you.

We’ve all seen these posts, right? Five ways to be a better person, seven ways to be a better you, or 10 ways to be a better person. Whatever your reason for wanting to try these things it’s important to know what you want to get out of it. I’ve searched these posts many times over the years and if I’ve learnt anything it’s that there is no sure way to be a “better” or “different” person, but you can try to live your life a little healthier, a little calmer or a little friendlier and it will make a massive difference to how you feel, about the world and about you. So as cliche as it is, I guess this is my 7 ways to be a better you.

1. Listen

We all try to be sympathetic, empathetic etc, and there is a good time for both those things, but sometimes you need to be neither. As a weight loss coach sympathy didn’t help, they didn’t want to hear me feeling sorry for them, they wanted advice or at least a little empathy. Empathy shows that you understand how a person is feeling, but often we get so caught up in trying to empathise that we end up making the conversation about ourselves. By all means, show a person now and then that you know how they feel, but be aware of how easy it is to end up only talking about yourself, remember to stop and listen. Some people just want to spill their guys and listen, so listen to them.

2. Think

Simple enough but before reacting to a situation, a comment, a picture etc think. Are you angry at someone? Why? Are you right to be angry or are you perhaps over reacting? My husband assumes malicious intent when there rarely is any, if someone pulls out in front of me in the car, he will swear and shout at them, assuming that they just don’t care and are trying to push in in front of us. But perhaps that person is distracted, noisy kids, something on their minds, or perhaps they’re a fairly new driver, so inexperienced. None of these things are malicious, if a friend has wronged you, take a step back and think carefully, is it really intentional, if not, is it worth losing someone over? Often it’s best to let things cool off and the re-approach the situation with a lighter, calmer approach, so think it through before you react.

3. Take time

This one is a little different, rushing about makes us stressed, especially if like me you hate turning people down and end up giving yourself far to much to do and not enough time to do it. So take a little time for yourself, what that looks like depends on the person, I love movies and TV shows, I’m no couch potato but I take a lot of pleasure out of movies and TV shows, as well as music – a life without music would be awful.  Find what helps calm you down and make time for it, no matter how busy you are you can make time to google this or check facebook? Then you definitely have time to take a moment for yourself.

4. Sleep

How does sleep make you a better you? Well firstly, you’ll be able to concentrate better, you’ll have more energy, you’ll snack less and you’ll be less likely to snap at people because you’re tired and grumpy. I don’t think I need to clarify anything beyond that, sleep makes you a better version of you, and that’s all we’re looking for, so go to bed a little earlier or nap when you can, but do your best to make sure you sleep.

5. Eat

I never said these were going to be big changes, but little changes and taking care of smaller things makes all the difference. A hangry person is not a happy person, if you’re a busy person and forget to eat try to make time to do so, make sure you have nibbles within reach if that’s not possible. If you’re planning to lose weight make sure you have foods that fill you up and snacks that don’t blow your plan, definitely don’t starve yourself, it won’t help you lose weight, it won’t help you get healthy and it definitely won’t make you easy to be around. If you want to boost your metabolism the answer is exercise, build muscle and burn more calories, starving yourself isn’t the answer.

6. Compliments and Positives

Compliment yourself, even if you struggle to find something about yourself that you like, try to find something to compliment yourself on, it might be as simple as telling yourself you cook amazing pancakes, you make a perfect cup of tea, your hair looks good today or you got a good grade on some coursework. Struggling to compliment yourself? Find a positive, something you did, something that happened to you, even the smallest thing, these things can help improve your mood over time, we laugh at things like gratitude but they do work. Then do the same for others. I walked past a lady a few months back and she had the most amazing retro hair, gorgeous victory roll, the lot. It probably took her ages and she looked great with it, so I told her. She was delighted, and I felt good too, share the love, compliment yourself and compliment someone else. Pass the feeling on.

7. Give yourself a break

This is the most important one, very few people in this world are awful, there are always exceptions but as general rule most people are not bad people. There may be aspects to your life that you don’t like, things you want to change or a past you’d rather forget but those things don’t have to be the be all and end all of your life. So you aren’t the size you think you should be, or you’re not as intelligent as [insert random person here], but they aren’t you so it doesn’t matter what they are. Try to go an hour without calling yourself a name or being rude about yourself, tomorrow do it for 2 hours, learn to give yourself a break.

 

These are things I think make me a better me, I’m nicer when I’m not hungry, and when I’ve slept, I can control my temper, function better and cope with more. I do better when I don’t get angry with myself – losing your keys and then losing your shit doesn’t guarantee you’ll find your keys, after all. Having a moment to myself allows me to calm down and refocus, especially important on the days when things feel like they are getting on top of me. Thinking before I speak helps me to remember to listen, the two together are so important, and if I think before I speak I’m less likely to make a rash decision or start an argument. All round, a better version of me, not thinner/taller/smarter/more attractive, just me, but a little nicer to be around 😉

 

Published by Michelle Quinton

Mum, wife, perpetual student, freelance writer, weight loss coach, artist and occasionally model. I love to try new things, I love to write and I love studying and researching. Never thought I'd see the day that studying became something I enjoyed, but here we are. My blog is where I put my thoughts, I also plan to start a blog of short stories, with a new prompt for each story.

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